Throwback Thursday (1)

Posted November 19, 2015 by Rowena in All Things Me, Family, Friends | 4 Comments

I missed my Mom last night.

I’m not even sure why I missed her more last night than any other night but she was on my mind as I waited for Arrow to come on. I was going through my inbox, reading through very old emails to Holly, Ames, Grace and then Mulu and Therese.

Mulu, I came across an email where you were making fun of me because of the attack of the Lilies and I laughed for a freaking long time.

For those of you who don’t know, the jist of that story is I made my Mom so freaking mad over some burnt cake. She didn’t like my attitude toward the burnt cake (I burned the cake, not her) and she would not let it go. Looking back at it now, I’m pretty sure she was mad about the attitude I was giving her and not the actual cake but back then? You couldn’t tell me that she wasn’t mad over a stupid burned cake.

I don’t remember how the story came up when I was telling Mulu, but I remember telling the story and not trying to be funny. I was dead ass serious when I told Mulu and when I was done, she did the one thing I wasn’t expecting (but should have expected, considering it’s freaking Mulu).

She laughed her butt off. And it wasn’t one of those haha fake laughs. No, it was a full out, bent at the waist, can’t catch her breath laugh.

She didn’t share in my stubborn anger over how extra I thought my Mom was over the burned cake, or fear for my life because my Mom did lunge for me, ready to choke my ass out, she didn’t do anything that a good friend would do.

She just laughed and laughed and laughed.

Though now that I think about it…maybe I was extra. LOL.

After that, she referred to that incident and even my Mom at times as the “Attack of the Lilies” (<---- those of you that didn't grow up with me, my Mom's name was Lillian but we called her Lily). At the time, I did not find it funny. It's hilarious to me now. While I was looking through old pictures to find some really great gems to post on the blog, I came across this picture. TBT-1

This picture was taken years ago, one Mother’s Day at the Lawndale Building. It was after Church and I remember trying to be patient while my Mom joined her friends to do what they always do after Church (take pictures) and I remember my friend Foti’s Mom making me take this picture. You don’t say no to Foti’s Mom so I dutifully posed for this picture.

We’re coming up on the fifth anniversary of my Mom’s death and there still isn’t a day that I don’t think about her. I can still hear her voice in my head, remember little things about her that make me smile or stories like the one above that make me laugh. There are also things that I miss about her so much that it makes me cry and that is why this picture made it onto the blog as my first Throwback Thursday post.

You never really get over the death of a loved one but there will come a time when you laugh again, when it’s not hard to be happy again. My Mom taught me a lot of life lessons. She taught me to love God, honor my parents, bring Brenna up in the Church and to be a good person.

She also taught me to not burn cakes. 🙂

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Oh Hell, I’m That Friend

Posted November 18, 2015 by Rowena in All Things Me, Friends | 2 Comments

As I mentioned before, I just turned 35 and most all of my friends are either in serious relationships or they’re married. They’re starting families and their kids are all young (except you, Holly and Tasha. You have old kids just like me, haha) and still in that need a babysitter age. My kid is sixteen and is almost the age I was when I had her (hold me). She’s going to house parties and hanging out with friends until all hours of the night whether it’s on FaceTime or at our house. I don’t need to be in her pocket at every hour of the day to make sure she doesn’t accidentally eat a golf ball or something.

My child rearing days are pretty much behind me. I’m at the “let them go and hope for the best” stage of mothering but through all of the stages of Brenna’s life, I’ve gone it alone.

I’m serially single.

I’m not pining after some lost love or anything like that. I just haven’t met anyone that I want to date, let alone “have relations” with.

I haven’t really let myself think about being single. It’s just something that I am. I’m independent and I like that I don’t have to answer to anyone or check in with anyone. I do what I want when my bank account tells me I can and that’s that.

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But, Jessica Day in the picture above is me because though I haven’t found my other half, my soulmate or what have you…my friends have.

I’m happy for them, thrilled even because all of my friends have awesome partners. Holly? MM is the perfect match for you. He’s everything that I would want for you. Tasha? John is such an awesome husband and father to you and the kids. Hanah? Leo is a great husband and father and he’s extremely cool (he’s related to the Rock’s stunt double guys) and finally…Mulu? Pedro has passed every single friends test that I could have put to him and I have come to love the hell out of him.

Really guys, I’m happy for all of you but the reason I started writing this post is because on freaking Monday, I got an email from Mulu.

The gist of the email was…

“I’m going to get to know him so I can see if he’d be a good fit for Wena!”

Oh, hell.

I’ve lived through my parents trying to set me up with people, guys who have approached my Dad to ask permission to date me (my Dad had a good laugh at that one and his response was, why are you asking me? Ask her! Haha, I love my Pops!) and apparently, it’s time that I live through my friends trying to set me up.

I’m that freaking single friend that my friends are trying to play matchmaker with.

First things first, Mulu…YOU BETTER NOT! Haha.

Even though sometimes I feel like this:

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I promise, I’m more like this…

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So really, I love you guys but don’t any of you get any more ideas about setting me up, you hear me????

And for all of my single friends out there (I see you Ames and B Nice), cheers!

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So It Begins…

Posted November 16, 2015 by Rowena in All Things Me | 8 Comments

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I turned 35 this week.

I’m still trying to come to terms with that little gem. Don’t get me wrong, my age has definitely been making itself known in little ways here and there. In the graying of my hair, the new aches and pains that seem to pop up everywhere – all the time and just in the passing of time. The year 2015 is coming to a close and I’ve been reflecting on the last year, along with the last 35 years of my life.

I know just how fortunate I am but I’m far from the person I thought I’d be when I was was a bright eyed and bushy tail freshman in high school (many, many moons ago) but with age, comes wisdom and I’ve come to realize that I don’t give a damn.

I’m going to count my blessings.

I’m blessed with a kid who is growing up to be a pretty special young woman, I’m blessed with a roof over my head, a family that supports me and a job that pays the bills. I have friends that love me and accept me the way that I am (broke and all) and who don’t shy away from keeping it real with me.

But no matter how many blessings I have, there are always things I can improve on.

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So, I’m going to welcome the autumn season with a new beginning. I’m a whole year older and I’m ready to tackle things.

My friend Hanah shared a link with our circle of friends of 50 places to eat in L.A. before you die and I’m so sad that of all the places on this list, I’ve only tried 4 and one of them is In-N-Out. [insert eye roll here] Guess what I’m going to try to make a dent in over the next year? It’s a good thing my gals are up for the challenge so I’m not alone in this.

Another one of those things is becoming a better blogger. I’ve tried and tried to write the kinds of stories that I love to read and have failed each and every time (for those interested, I failed NaNoWriMo this year. Boo!) so I’m going to stop worrying about writing fictional stories and write the stories of my life. I can definitely do that and I will do that here. On this blog.

So, welcome to my new blog where I’ll be sharing stories of my life, talking about the things that I’m loving (and hating) and keeping a running diary of all things, me.

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